Building Self-Esteem in Children

Jan 23rd 2021


5 min read


Helping children build essential skills like resilience and self-esteem is a great way to equip them to be academically and socially successful.

Self esteem refers to how children value themselves and how important they are in the grand scheme of things. It is common to hear people talk about self esteem and its importance for kids, but what is self esteem and why does it even matter in the first place?

Self Esteem and Its Importance for Children

Positive self esteem is when people feel good about themselves. Children who have positive self esteem feel capable and confident. They value their abilities much more. They take pride in everything they do and they always give it their best shot.

When a child is secure and confident, it is more likely for them to develop a growth mindset. This means that children with high self esteem can push themselves to take on challenges, learn from, and cope with their mistakes. They also tend to stand up for themselves and know when to ask for help.


Tips to Build Self Esteem in Children

Here are a few ways to help children build their self esteem -

Exude your own Confidence

You can set a good example for children when they see you take on new tasks and challenges with optimism. However, don't feign confidence. Do not pretend to be perfect as that sets unrealistic expectations. When faced with challenges, let your children see that you acknowledge the negative feelings but try to focus on the positive side of things to resolve the issue at hand.


Encourage Kids to Try Something New

Developing new skills can make children feel more confident and capable that they can take on anything that may come their way. This process usually entails a discovery phase, a challenging phase, and the skilled phase. As the child transitions from discovery to facing the challenges while developing new skills, they learn to accept experimentation and dealing with failure. As they go from the challenging phase to the skilled phase, they gain confidence in their ability to learn, overcome challenges, and to be good at something new.

Teach them how to Accept Mistakes

Make kids realize that mistakes are a regular part of life and what matters is not the mistake but what they learn from it. Confident people never let their fear of failure stop them. It is not because they think they will never fail, instead it is because they know that they can handle any obstacle that may come their way.


Allow Children to Experience Failure

It is only natural to want to protect your kids from failure yet it is only through trial and error that kids learn. Not meeting a goal is a great way to help children learn that it is okay to fail. This can also encourage kids to always give their best, a skill that can come in handy once they become adults.

Help Children Discover their Passion

Letting kids explore their personal interest will help them form a sense of identity that is crucial for building confidence. Seeing their own skills and talents develop can also give their self esteem a much needed boost.

Help children develop their self esteem with these tips and watch them grow into fine young adults.

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